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All-In Night Reviews
Lynne Burgess started a custom in her family called All-in Night: one night during the week when everyone in the family is home, with no exceptions. That night, they sit at the table for an extra 10 minutes after dinner and talk about a particular theme, thinking of something they can each do in the week to put that theme into practice. As well as encouraging discussion of these important themes, it fosters active listening in each person as well. They even have a special dessert on that night to look forward to.Lynne's explains her reason for starting this family tradition:"Our children ... don't just accidentally 'grow up' to be emotionally healthy, mature, compassionate individuals. They need to have us around often so they can see the values that we teach, modelled in 'real time,' and put into action. We need to share our life stories and experiences with them, and most of all, encourage, love and respect them." (17)This book doesn't explain how it works right at the beginning, but if you keep reading it will all become clear. Each family member has a notebook, and on the first night together in the year they write some goals for that year. Then they each write each other an encouraging note, after picking names out of a hat. Some of the themes Lynne has discussed with her family include:- Showing love (and what kind of affection they liked to receive - what made them feel loved); - Family traditions they could establish; - public speaking, - apologising, - giving (they encouraged their kids to give away 10% of what they earned to someone in need); - kindness; - achievement; - fun; - exercise; - listening skills; - hygiene; - making friends; - saying no; - body language; - attitude; - poetry; - behaviour at a friend's house; - being yourself; - eating out; - forgiveness; - bullying; - affirmation; - delayed gratification; - compassion; - relaxation; - leadership; - making good choices; - optimism; - voluntary work; - 'me too' syndrome; - work-life balance; - resisting gossip; - emotional blackmail; - learning from mistakes; and- budgeting.As you can see, there are some real gems for discussion here. Highly recommended. www.GoodReadingGuide.com
Lynne Burgess is a busy mum of a large family who was looking for a way of talking to her children about issues that didn’t naturally come up in the day to day routines of a busy family life; issues such as values, ethics, compassion, etc. Lynne and her husband created a ritual one night a week where the family shared a special dessert and discussed a particular topic. The topics were introduced in a variety of fun ways and her book, All-in night, contains the format of many of these discussions starters.I like the practicality that comes through in Lynne’s writing. She is honest about how these discussions times are created and maintained. They take time off for school holidays and vary the length of the discussions; sometimes only taking ten minutes other times taking much longer. She also explains how they accommodate the wide age range of their children. A useful resource and idea generator for families and those who work with primary school children.
Two reviews from our CALEB reviewers:(1)Lyn and Chris Burgess began a family tradition when their children were still toddlers, and it is still an important part of their family life, even though their children are now adults. The family set aside one night a week to spend ten to twenty minutes together around the dinner table, talking about the things that matter. Nothing is allowed to interfere with that appointment. Burgess shares the secret of their success as well as lots of ideas for how to have your own family night. WN(2)Sounds worth a try if the family is struggling to be a cohesive unit. A well-articulated book.CALEB Bookseller's Award Volunteer Reviewer
Loaded with great ideas this is a valuable family resource to keep families communicating which will inevitably keep them connected. Highly recommend .
Busy families can learn from Lynne Burgess positive strategies to bond and instil solid values. She writes from her own experiences, many of which we can relate to.
dropped: 13 feb 2013