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Mom loved adages, quotes, slogans. There were always little reminders pasted on the kitchen wall. For example, the word THINK. I found THINK thumbtacked on a bulletin board in her darkroom. I saw it Scotch-taped on a pencil box she’d collaged. I even found a pamphlet titled THINK on her bedside table. Mom liked to THINK.So begins Diane Keaton’s unforgettable memoir about hMom loved adages, quotes, slogans. There were always little reminders pasted on the kitchen wall. For example, the word THINK. I found THINK thumbtacked on a bulletin board in her darkroom. I saw it Scotch-taped on a pencil box she’d collaged. I even found a pamphlet titled THINK on her bedside table. Mom liked to THINK.So begins Diane Keaton’s unforgettable memoir about her mother and herself. In it you will meet the woman known to tens of millions as Annie Hall, but you will also meet, and fall in love with, her mother, the loving, complicated, always-thinking Dorothy Hall. To write about herself, Diane realized she had to write about her mother, too, and how their bond came to define both their lives. In a remarkable act of creation, Diane not only reveals herself to us, she also lets us meet in intimate detail her mother. Over the course of her life, Dorothy kept eighty-five journals—literally thousands of pages—in which she wrote about her marriage, her children, and, most probingly, herself. Dorothy also recorded memorable stories about Diane’s grandparents. Diane has sorted through these pages to paint an unflinching portrait of her mother—a woman restless with intellectual and creative energy, struggling to find an outlet for her talents—as well as her entire family, recounting a story that spans four generations and nearly a hundred years. More than the autobiography of a legendary actress, Then Again is a book about a very American family with very American dreams. Diane will remind you of yourself, and her bonds with her family will remind you of your own relationships with those you love the most....

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then again Reviews

  • Will Byrnes
    2019-01-18 02:11

    Diane Keaton has had a career that was a mixed success. She has been a small player in some of the larger artistic events in the USA, appearing in the Broadway production of Hair, playing a mob wife in The Godfather series. She was a regular cast member in Woody Allen films such as Play it Again, Sam, Sleeper, and Love and Death. She had starring roles in Looking for Mister Goodbar a how-not-to-date guide, that paired her with Richard Gere, in Warren Beatty’s Reds and, of course, she starred in Woody’s fictionalized look at herself and her family, Annie Hall. She has been nominated for a host of acting awards and has won about eighteen, including a best actress Oscar for Annie Hall. She has been the source of a fashion trend, from the Annie Hall wardrobe and persona which were both her own. She has done some directing, including a music video and a documentary about Heaven. She has done photography and art of other sorts as well. Late in her career she has re-emerged on the silver screen in roles for older women, scoring many a success in comedic roles, her comfort zone. I did not love this bio. Then again, it was not bad. Diane Keaton tells us her story, counterpointed with Dorothy, her mother’s, as illustrated by letters and journal entries mom had written.I want to hold my life up alongside hers in order to, as she wrote, reach a point where I begin to see me—and her—in a more understandable light.We learn of her family dynamics, and get a picture of how her forebears affected the world in which she grew up and thus the person she came to be. That offers the core strength of the book. Aren’t we all deeply affected, if not determined, by what came before in our lives, in our family history? Nurture may not completely overrule nature in how we turn out, but it plays a huge role in determining the direction of our lives. How did that earlier life, and the lives of her father, her ancestors, her siblings affect Keaton’s?Of more mainstream interest is her associations with some of the better known names in cinema, including Woody Allen, Warren Beatty and Al Pacino with cameos by Jack Nicholson, Richard Burton, Gregory Peck, Gale Storm and Audrey Hepburn, among others. Yes, she really does think Woody is a physically attractive guy. Her description of the making of Annie Hall, and how it reflects (or doesn’t) her personal story is gripping for those of us who cherish that film. Keaton lines her tale with how she came to develop her own sartorial look. We get a peek at a behind-the-scenes Warren Beatty, who is not only driven by a need to create and to produce artistically, but who is also incredibly generous and supportive. I enjoyed reading about her two years of training in a Manhattan acting school of note. There are no real scandals to be found in these pages. Damn! If readers are looking for some juicy kiss-and-tell, they will not find it here, although Diane makes it clear that she got around some. She offers no steamy nuggets about the people with whom she was close, although there is a dark scene here and there about celebrities she encountered in which they are shown sans greasepaint. Keaton does offer a close-up view of some aspects of her personal journey, spewing about the bad case of bulimia she had during her early professional acting years, exploring some of the challenges she faced in her romantic relationships, looking at her own strengths and limitations. Was she really as artistic as she believed/hoped herself to be? Was she any good as a director? Why was it that she never found Mister Right, for the long term, anyway? Dorothy is quoted as saying Marriage is when a girl gives up the fight…and from then on leaves the truly interesting and significant action to her husband Was love of applause more important than finding love in a mate or was she just being who she was meant to be? She communicates well her affection for her adopted children and the satisfaction she derives from being a parent, and from finding her cinematic comfort zone, again.There are elements of this book that are quite good, dealings with her family topping that list. Her offerings re Annie Hall are also fun, and late parenthood was uplifting. But while there may be elements of Keaton’s story that work individually, I found that overall, the book worked only so far for me. While I appreciated some of the insights and observations, I still felt that Keaton in this book, as in her relationships, would only go so far. And that leaves me with the feeling that Then Again could have been, and sometimes flirts with being, exceptional. Ultimately it was mostly just La-de-da.

  • J.H.Gordon
    2019-02-09 18:27

    Wow, I was surprised by the tone of this memoir. I have always admired Diane Keaton for her refusal to conform to the Hollywood ideal of female beauty, and I saw her single status as a symbol of her fierce independence. This memoir shattered this illusion: Keaton is insecure, needy, and self-critical. She comes off as a teenage girl, lamenting boyfriends who left her -- Woody Allen, Al Pacino, Warren Beaty. She continually doubts her acting ability, critizes her lack of "prettiness" and "beauty", and recounts her discomfort around real "movie stars." In the end, it doesn't feel like she has grown emotionally from the time she arrived in New York in late 60s. Much of the book deals with the deaths (and lives) of her parents, and I got the impression that she has not recovered from this loss (they died in the 90s). This book depressed me, and made me cringe in parts. I wish I had not read it, not because it is badly written, but because my image of her as strong, smart, quirky, and independent has been lost.

  • Barbara
    2019-02-15 19:37

    Diane Keaton is an American actor, director, and producer. She's well known for her roles in many films, including: Play It Again, Sam; The Godfather Trilogy; Annie Hall; Something's Gotta Give; Mad Money.....and many others. In this memoir Diane talks about growing up in a large family in California, her career, her romances, her adopted children, and especially her mother. She calls this a story about her mother and herself.Diane grew up in a loving home, with an especially warm and creative mother and a father who - though somewhat distant - tried to do right by his family. Diane's mother, Dorothy Hall, was addicted to documenting her life, and left behind a large number of journals that are excerpted in this book. We come to know her as a woman devoted to her family and proud of her talented daughter, though perhaps somewhat unfulfilled in her own life. Diane also writes a good deal about her siblings, with whom she has close and affectionate relationships. A couple of eccentric grandparents also make an appearance, whose exploits are sometimes humorous, sometimes touching or sad.Diane devotes a good deal of the book to her career: her love of singing, her move to New York to look for work, her acting coaches, her entry into show business, movies she's acted in and directed, her friends in the industry, and more. This is engaging and gives a small but interesting glimpse into the world of show business. Diane is honest about her love life, and speaks openly and kindly about her romances with Woody Allen, Warren Beatty, and Al Pacino. Diane badly wanted to marry Pacino, with whom she made three Godfather movies, but could never convince him to take the plunge. Nevertheless, all Diane's boyfriends apparently remained friends for life.Diane is devoted to the two children she adopted later in life, her daughter Dexter and her son Duke. We learn details about their arrival at her home, gifts they received from Diane's celebrity friends, their birthdays, what they liked to do, their loving interactions with their mom, and so on. Diane devotes many pages to the death of her father from cancer, and to her mother's struggle with Alzheimer's disease; we see Dorothy's slow decline and eventual death. To me, these parts of the book - though clearly very meaningful to the author, whose anguish is clear - were overly long and the least interesting parts of the story.I enjoyed the first part of the book, about Diane's career, much more than the parts devoted to her parents decline, which were sad but not gripping. If the author writes another book concentrating on her show business experiences I'd read it.You can follow my reviews at https://reviewsbybarbsaffer.blogspot....

  • Jennifer
    2019-01-30 19:32

    I'm a big fan of Ms. Keaton, so I was really excited to dive into this memoir. When it began, I thought to myself: "I think I'm really going to like this". Let me preface that I'm usually not a huge fan of memoirs, autobiographies, biographies, or anything that's like reading a timeline from a history textbook. However, when I started "Then Again", I got the impression that Diane was going to tell her life story through the perspective of her mother's life; a concept that I was interested to watch unfold. The forward and the first few chapters followed suit. I liked how she tied entries from her mother's journal into her own life events so as to understand, explain, or give meaning to fragments of her life journey. Beyond the very beginning and very end, though, the memoir seemed scattered and without structure. She would toss in a line, here and there, about mom, but it seemed a little forced, or without the purpose that she told the reader it would have at the start. I enjoyed finding out more about the eclectic Diane Keaton, but unfortunately I felt like she fell short of following through with what she set out to accomplish - intertwining her story with her mom's.

  • Roxanne
    2019-02-12 01:40

    Then Again is a memoir by Diane Keaton. The book confirmed to me that even though she is extremely accomplished in so many ways, and 65 years old, she has little self-esteem and is very self-loathing. I guess my rating reflects a little of my disappointment in her.I felt a tone of saddness throughout this book. Perhaps it is the process of losing both parents. I experienced something very similar.Referencing a recent commercial of Keatons, she is portrayed in black and white, very chic clothing, mentions her mother, but something about the commercial was just "not right" to me. I felt like she felt uncomfortable behind the camera. Instead of her usual Annie Hall look, she was portraying a Hollywood beauty. It just felt uncomfortable to me. Two fawns are also used in one segment of the commercial and I was not happy to see that. Two fawns on a chic Hollywood photo shoot? I get the creativity, but I did not appreciate the use of fawns for something like this. The sad aspect is that I do not even remember what the commercial is for, even though I have seen it about eight times. It was clear this book was going to be all about family and in particular the unique mother-daughter relationship. I was hoping for more detail and depth. I would also have liked more photos.The most striking quality for me was the depth of Keaton's self-depreciation and occasional shallow perceptions. I didn't get the feeling of being humble, just lack of self-esteem. My not-so-traditional woman was much more traditional than expected. Thank you Diane Keaton for the wonderful performances you have given us. I think some of your films are the greatest!

  • Ray Campbell
    2019-02-14 19:13

    Several years ago I read a memoir by Mia Farrow and for the next several years, felt guilty to be a Woody Allen fan. Eventually I decided it was OK to love the art and not let the artist's problems obscure my enjoyment. Eventually, after re-reading all of his prose, another biography and watching Wild Man Blue, I decided I didn’t care if he had a problem. I am a Woody Allen fan. It is refreshing to read Diane Keaton who also unabashedly loves him.The book is a sentimental journey through the family life and emotional struggles of Diane Keaton. While some memoirs provide the insight gained from an interesting lifetime and cast light on many characters and circumstances, this book is about Diane. Sweet as her rambling memories of her dad and mom are, the memories made up the bulk of the book which was ultimately self-indulgent. Never the less, pleasant to read. I have always enjoyed Diane as an actress and her life has been interesting enough that the stories she tells are delightful. It’s also exciting that Diane loves Woody and had lots of fun comments to make on him.I listened to this book. She read it which was also nice. Her delivery was deliberate, slow and relaxed. One thing that surprised me was that she cried while reading some passages. This made her seem tremendously sincere and real. When books are read by professionals, they sometimes assume the voices of their characters for effect, but this was a real person reading her own words and breaking down. Nothing unpleasant or wrong about it, I just can’t recall ever having heard that before.

  • Lindsay
    2019-01-25 18:36

    I identify with Diane and her mother, Dorothy. I'm one part Diane-or as many might think-Annie Hall-and one part Dorothy. I found Keaton's memoir to be a very interesting journey. I loved finding out how she became who she is, the films and relationships that were turning points and what makes her tick. She doesn't hold back with her own self criticisms, but they are delivered in manner that makes it endearing vs annoying. I found myself understanding Diane even better-and falling deeper in love with her as an actress and now, as a person and a daughter. I'm not sure if I found this such a good read because I am a neurotic, self deprecating and anxious woman or if it is because she seemed to tell the story of a life that has those elements without apology. This is no where near a Hollywood tell-all. It does give some interesting insights into Hollywood royalty-Al Pacino, Woody Allen and Warren Beatty. You find out some dirt on The Godfather-but nothing outrageous. It's not really her style. Read this if you're neurotic. Read this if you loved Something's Gotta Give and/or Annie Hall. Read this if love your mother so much it hurts.

  • Mediaman
    2019-02-06 23:37

    This is a better book than reviewers state if you get rid of any high expectations of Keaton revealing bedroom secrets with her famous loves or behind-the-scenes insights into her films. I read the negative reviews and hesitated to pick this book up (and I'm not a huge Keaton fan, just someone who likes celebrity autobiographies)--but I am glad I did because she opens herself up to analyze herself and her family, particularly her mother's impact on her life.Keaton does go through most of the important parts of her life but she never really goes in depth. She skips writing about her high school years without explaining why and never explains why she decided to go to New York to become an actress. She ignores many of her films and tv appearances (nine of her films get mentioned in one quick paragraph!) and she claims to not remember many of the things she has done professionally. It's interesting to hear that someone so famous and well-traveled can't recall anything about some of the things we best remember her for. That may be why some don't like this book--there are not enough movie memories.As for her love affairs, she is relatively forthcoming compared to other modern Hollywood memoirs. She is still in love with Woody Allen and provides some insight into his quirks. She was attracted to cheating Warren Beatty since childhood and at one point concludes that she was more interested in "being Warren Beatty" than being with Warren Beatty. She says she tried to get Al Pacino to marry her. So there are enough insights to make it interesting, though there aren't a lot of details about what she did with these famous guys.There's way too much of her mother in this book and that may be why so many are disappointed by it. Keaton doesn't seem to understand how her mother could be a happy submissive housewife with a distant husband and wacky son, and Keaton's lack of trust in men seems to be her attempt to right her family problems. But I think if the publisher would have forced Keaton to take out the parts about her mom then she wouldn't have agreed to do the book. Diane only can reveal herself when her mother's self-revelatory writings do so first. Keaton does open up about her insecurities, bulimia, motherhood late in life, her struggles with male authority figures and her dislike of being famous. It does skip around a bit and can be a little hard to follow at times. But she comes across as a regular person, which makes for a better celebrity memoir than most.

  • Sarah Fay
    2019-02-10 19:19

    I read this book because I have always loved Diane Keaton in all her parts and have also admired the person she seems to be in real life. That all still holds true, but I was pretty disappointed with the book, which was amateurishly written at best; wandering and boring at worst. While it is full of deeply personal confessions - of for instance, her bulemia, her lack of self esteem, her family dynamics ...she completely skips over the good stuff and fails to fill in any details of her famed relationships with Woody Allen, Warren Beatty, or Al Pacino beyond what has already been made more than apparent in the press. Come on but, Enquiring minds want to know! It reminded me of an old movie where the camera pans to the moon to let you know a love scene is happening. I think it is sweet and admirable that Keaton honors her mother by making the book about her and her fight with Alzheimer's - but if I had known this in advance it wouldn't have been my first choice of reading material. Sorry if that sounds harsh. I still think Diane is great but this book could have fit into a magazine article with the same amount of substance.

  • Susan Weidener
    2019-01-16 20:40

    As an author of two memoirs, what I most appreciated about this book was Diane Keaton's honesty. From start to finish she pulls no punches about who she is, her strengths and weaknesses, her eccentricities and philosophy of life.She fashions a love story to her mother, yet she is not so kind to herself. Perhaps, this is the fate of the memoirist that they tend to be harder on themselves than others. In any case, we like and appreciate Diane from start to finish. The three loves in her life - Woody Allen, Warren Beatty and Al Pacino, comprise compelling portraits and answer the question I always had which was why she never married. Although her longstanding relationship with Pacino ended on a heartbreaking note, she treats all three men with kindness, especially Allen to whom she credits her career.The contrast between her life as the iconic Annie Hall - (Hall was Keaton's last name) and that of her mother, Dorothy, a housewife and mother of four, is bittersweet and a commentary on women's lives. Dorothy's artistry and creativity found expression in journals and collages hidden away in kitchen drawers. Keaton admits it was years before she found the courage to read her mother's journals, fearing to learn that her mother's creative life and soul had been sacrificed to marriage and motherhood. Entries from Dorothy's journal appear throughout the book so that Dorothy tells her story "in her own words." This is the power of the written word as legacy.I'm not sure why this book ranks as memoir, however. It seems more an autobiographical account taking us from Keaton's childhood to her present-day life as the mother of two adopted children; a woman who is nearing 70 and looks back on her mother's heartbreaking illness and death from Alzheimer's in light of realizing how important it is to make each day count. The story begins to drag and veer from the compelling narrative when Keaton goes into great detail about her relationships with her son and daughter. That said, this is a moving read and a page turner worth reading for those interested in how a famous woman depicts the mother/daughter relationship in very personal and honest language.

  • Jenny Brown
    2019-01-22 01:29

    I was very impressed with the high quality of this memoir and came away from it with a heightened respect for Keaton as a person. I read it shortly after reading Judy Collins' memoir, and that reinforced my surprise at finding that Keaton is another luminously beautiful woman who went through much of her life oppressed by feelings of inadequacy, like Collins. What a shame. I would have killed to look like Keaton when I was growing up, and the way she looks now, in her mid-60s is enough to make the rest of us pudgy, wrinkly 60-ish ladies go shoot ourselves. And yet, crosseyed and topheavy as I was in those days, and wrinkley as I am now, I have had more confidence in my looks, and more success with men than this talented superstar.The way she brings alive her mother's story is quite moving, and Keaton does not let her own celebrity-studded life overshadow her mother's story. She also walks a very fine line in telling us about her relationships with celebrities without revealing anything which would damage her friendships with these people, which made me respect her even more, as much as my lower nature might have enjoyed reading more juicy details. Assuming this book wasn't ghosted, Keaton needs to get over the idea that she isn't smart, which is as silly as the idea she isn't beautiful. If it was, then she has very good taste in ghosts!

  • Ellyn Oaksmith
    2019-02-01 19:14

    I loved this book. The missing star is probably because it isn't a novel. Diane Keaton has written the most un movie-star autobiography with style and humility and inner reflection. It probably shares more than her mother and her exes would be happy with (does Al Pacino know that she writes down the 6 notes he sent her? They aren't too personal but still....) and sometimes I think she perhaps went a bit too far but the details do lend a reality and poignancy that is rare. This isn't really about Diane, it's about her and her mother, their relationship, their family, a time in Los Angeles and the growth of a woman. It explains why she didn't marry, why she adopted at a time that most women retire, and yes, there is enough gossip and name dropping to keep the People-reading side of the audience happy. But it really is so much more than a famous woman. It's about the mother daughter relationship and very much about her parents marriage. She shows everyone warts and all and comes up with a very moving and real story.

  • Elizabeth
    2019-01-19 20:14

    A bit torn on how to review/rate this often frustrating, but sometimes elegantly beautiful "collage" of a memoir. It started well, and ended terrifically, but there was a large chunk in the middle that made me despair of finishing. I was frustrated by the superficial snippets offered regarding important events and phases of Keaton's life. No, I don't need details of her romances, but I wasn't getting much sense of self-awareness, of having learned from her life. And maybe that's because it really did take adopting children when she was 50, and then 55, to bring a focus to Keaton's understanding of herself. The final chapters were extremely touching and thoughtful. So a 3 overall, with the caveat that it ranged from 1 to 5 within pages.

  • Una Tiers
    2019-02-08 23:41

    Diane Keaton reads her own book, but doesn't speak or write in sentences. Much of the material is taken from her late mother's journals, but this gets mixed in with her thoughts and reflections. In a word the book is random.

  • Kathleen
    2019-02-02 20:36

    This purchase was a guilty pleasure for me. For whatever reason --we're almost the same age? she was living in NYC circa my college years when my now-husband was a student there? she became that teacher ( my profession once) in that nightmarish Goodbar?, that woman in The Good Mother ( both books which I loved)? or simply because she was/is Annie Hall? or, even more timely, because she and Jack Nicholson loved each other in that spectacular setting out on the tip of Long Island which I love to visit? -- I don't know, but I think she and I have been on a trip through life together. So, I wanted to know more about her and, truthfully, was interested in some gossip she might share. I sometimes love to chew that fat! The book turned out to be some gossip, one brilliantly instructive passage on her bout with bulimia, but, mostly, a profile of her abiding love for her mother. All my life, I have been drawn to stories of mothers and daughters --observing those relationships in any way possible --to learn, to always learn from them. In this case, Diane Keaton writes with such tenderness, aided by her mother's copious journals, of her mother, and of her entire family. Lucky girl --not a perfect life--but one in which her mother gave her the gift of free expression. As the shopworn plaque says, she gave her roots and wings. Lucky girl.I'd like to give the book 3 1/2 stars.I'd like to say that I don't think this is a great book, but I do think it is an honest one. Every story she tells strikes the reader as authentic. She seems to be a kind person, struggling to be a good mom. It was a pleasant interlude, an easy read, and full of good lessons for those who need to reflect on their own roles as 21st century women.

  • Kristi
    2019-01-17 01:38

    Then Again, by Diane Keaton found me at the library, where I tucked in for a minute between picking up sons from different activities. There it was sitting in the new arrivals section. I love Diane Keaton and her funny, quirky, womany ways. Her memoir was just as loveable.Then Again, travels through Diane’s life and Dorothy’s (her Mom). The format is engaging; fun snippets, diary entries from Diane and Dorothy during the same time period, and photos. The format is similar to the collages she says that she loves in the book. Quirky, womany, those were the feelings I left with, especially womany, in a way that I haven’t read before. Maybe it was the validation or maybe acknowledgement of the lonely women feel, or the insecurities, or the things she found amusing, but it felt like a shared and warm connection.Diane’s humongous life is littered with amazing accomplishments in theater and arts. Details of her love life alone were enough to keep me engaged. Famous men came and went. Her decision to have children late in life and her descriptions of her life with them was funny and familiar.Dorothy’s diary entries, gives such intimacy to her life. Her brilliance shown in what she shared. My favorite entry was Dorothy at Sixty-three. She just lists things about her life in such a revealing way, “I am a woman of medium height; once five feet eight, now five seven…I try to drink 8 glasses of water each day. I sleep in nighties, under two white blankets with my husband beside me…My face and neck are fairly wrinkled now. I am giving myself a great deal of personal care these days…”I could feel the love Diane has for her Mom through the pages. Reading this book was like having ten coffee get-togethers with an old friend.

  • Sterlingcindysu
    2019-01-24 01:22

    My last book read was Big Little Lies. I wanted to read it before HBO aired it. Looking through my stack, I saw this memoir of Keaton (and her mother), and she is also appearing in The Young Pope on HBO. I really didn't know much about Diane Keaton and now I perhaps know too much. She needed to add much more background and details to her activities, such as being in Hair. I assumed she took off her clothes, but when I googgled her, it turns out that she was the only cast member that didn't, and lost a $50 bonus. Now why did she leave that interesting part out? (Also, when she was applying for her actors' equity card she had to pick another name since there was a Diane Hall, so she used her mother's maiden name Keaton. Then years later when a Michael Douglas (not that one!) had to find a new name, he liked Keaton as well and that's why we have Michael Keaton now.) But why did I have to turn to the internet to find this out when I was holding her life story? She is well known for Annie Hall (directly and written by Woody Allen) and Red (directed by Warren Beatty), and she was involved with both men at the time of the filming. But this quote really makes me see red: "Without a great man writing or directing for me, I'm a mediocre movie star at best."What? Why can't she see herself as a muse, that she inspired these men to work better and heck, she won 2 Oscar nominations for the roles, and won it for Annie Hall. A man would never say that. In June she will be awarded the lifetime achievement award of the American Film Institute. I really hope she wears something better than when she won the Oscar in 1978! (She dressed as Annie Hall--no low cut gown dripping with gems for her.)

  • Pooch
    2019-01-16 23:14

    This is a book of deeply felt emotion, of good-byes, of sadness at the passing of parents and the reality of one's own mortality. Some of us have been there. Some of us know this searing experience. For Diane Keaton, who adopted her first child at age 50, then another, there is the brightness of children to propel her into activity and light amidst her sorrow. Children provoke deep, almost painful emotions of deepest love that blends with the sadness of losing our own parents. It is a whirl pool of churning emotions.While some celebrity memoirs reach to "set things straight" or present "my side of the story", this memoir minimizes Keaton's life and accomplishments and focuses on love and loss. On sorrow. It is interesting to see, so far as she is willing to reveal, her life as a working actress. Her artistic sensibilities are refreshing, even joyful. She writes about her powerful friendship with Woody Allen. She mentions Al Pacino.I remember swooning over Warren Beatty in "Splendor in the Grass", as Diane did. Can you imagine actually having an adult relationship with your movie idol as she did? She had difficulty with that concept as any of us would. That is the tone of this book--that she is as surprised by her celebrity as anyone would be. That is her appeal. The self-depricating, talented, artistic, poetic woman, Diane Keaton, is authentic and human and grieving the passing of her sensitive, loving mother. A tearful ending. A beautiful book.

  • Jennie
    2019-01-28 19:37

    I normally don't read autobirgraphies or memoirs because I generally find that I have nothing in common with the authors and reading this genre seems voyueristic. Howver, reading Diane Keaton's memoir has touched me in a way that left me crying by the end of the book. I have long felt a sort of kindred spiritness with Ms. Keaton because I feel we share an eccentric nature; I didn't realize how allike we are until I read this book. I was originally attracted to this book because she wrote it after discovering 85 journals her mother kept before sucumbing to Alzheimer's disease. I was immediately drawn in by this and when I picked it up in the bookstore, I was enthralled by all the journal photographs. WHen I began to read Then Again, I was entranced, not only by what Ms. Keaton said, but how she said it. She juxtaposes her mother's journal entries with her on reiminisences and viewpoints, which were certainly very interesting and inspirational. As the book progresses, Ms. Keaton moves from discussing her family and early acting to her late-in-life motherhood and watching her beloved mother, Dorothy, die. It was the latter which had me laying in bed with tears dripping down my face trying not to wake my husband as I was unable to stop reading. I can identify with Ms. Keaton because she, like myself, is quirky, insecure, passionate, creative and introverted. All of this comes through in Then Again. A beautiful book from a beautiful soul - one of the most meaningful books I've ever read.

  • Jo
    2019-02-01 20:40

    I listened to the audio version of “Then Again”. It was read/performed by the author, Diane Keaton. While I don’t always like it when authors read their own work, in this case it added to the book in a raw and touching way. This is not your usual Hollywood memoir. It is not a tell-all Hollywood gossip tome about movies, stars, lovers, and enemies. If you’re looking for that, this isn’t the book for you. It is more a tribute to Ms. Keaton’s mother. She makes it clear right from the start, "I've written not my memoir but ours.... What I've done is create a book that combines my own memories and stories with Mom's notebooks and journals." The book is a written collage of her mother’s writings and those from Ms. Keaton. Her mother wrote a life-long journal contained in over 40 notebooks, and Ms. Keaton liberally quotes from them, as well as letters, phone messages, found texts, and personal notes. She often compares her mother’s life to her own with selections from her mother’s journals juxtaposed with her own writings from similar periods in their lives. The book reads pretty much as Diane Keaton speaks: a little rambling, with tangents that go off here and there. As an audio book, it’s a little disjointed and occasionally hard to follow, but Ms. Keaton doing her own narration helps immensely in keeping it straight because of the shifts in tone and timbre of her voice.'Then Again' is largely a work of memory and feeling. It is incredibly raw. You feel her deep and abiding love for her family, her parents, brother and sisters, and for her adopted children, Dexter and Duke. It is the central core of her being. She is incredibly loyal to those she loves, both family and the men who have shared her life (Woodie Allen, Warren Beatty, & Al Pacino -- even though none of them were truly interested in committing to her). You feel her childhood bewilderment as she tries to connect with the remote man who is her father. Later, Ms. Keaton’s grief at the death of her father is starkly apparent in her voice as she nearly breaks down in the reading on several occasions. The intense respect and love she feels for her mother is obvious from the outset, and pervades the book. As her mother receives the diagnosis of Alzheimer’s disease and slowly sinks into that abyss, Ms. Keaton is brutally honest about what is happening to her mother, to their relationship, to the family in relation to the changes in her mother and you ache for her. The pain and loss and lost quality to her voice are heart-breaking. You also truly feel the delight she takes in her children. Her candor is eye-opening. Yet at the same time, you are left wanting more. I think that for all her insight into her family, Ms. Keaton hasn’t really figured herself out very well yet. She can’t convey what she doesn’t know.I know a lot of reviewers I’ve seen on other sites were unhappy that this wasn’t a “Hollywood-style” memoir where they found out more about what happened on movie sets and in relationship with other big names. (I don’t like Woodie Allen movies so I’m fine without those filming anecdotes.) I picked the book up because it was described as a joint memoir of her mother and herself, and focused on the mother-daughter relationship, independence, and the issues of aging, so I liked it even though I think it is an intrinsically sad book and therefore difficult to listen to at times. But I don’t know whether to give it 3 or 4 stars. I would happily give it 3.5 stars but Goodreads doesn’t do that. I think I will round up, for Dorothy Hall.

  • Gail
    2019-02-04 23:25

    Here I thought I was getting myself into a memoir that might read as funny as the Diane Keaton I love onscreen! Instead, "Then Again" is Keaton's mash-up of her life story (with entries as diverse as battling an eating disorder to dating Al Pacino) intermixed with chapters devoted to her mother, Dorothy Hall. I was conflicted while reading because Diane uses Dorothy's journals——unread by Diane until her death-—to share so much of her mother's stories. Some of the entries felt so private and raw and while, on the one hand, I appreciated what Diane was trying to do with preserving (or, better yet, justifying) her mother's life story, another part of me wondered what Dorothy would think to know so many strangers were reading about private pains in areas of her life such as her marriage and sense of worth. Add to all that Diane's detailed recounting of Dorothy's last days with Alzhemier's disease (an illness I'm uncomfortably familiar with, having watched my own maternal grandmother wither away from it) and I don't know...I just had a hard time with this one. Probably explains why I had to force myself to pick it up on more than one occasion.(Note: The best part of the book for me was Diane's love for Woody and Annie Hall. What a great film that was...)

  • Jacqueline Wagenstein
    2019-02-01 20:20

    „Винаги казвам, че моят живот е семейството, и това е истината“ – така започва тази вълнуваща мемоарна творба, подписана от филмовата легенда Даян Кийтън. Книгата излиза на български език на 27 октомври. „Някога пак“ се чете като дневник на обикновена жена, която ненадейно е станала кинозвезда. Тя сякаш не вярва особено на това, което й се е случило, но то е факт“, отбелязва „Лос Анжелис Таймс“. Обявена за една от най-добрите книги на 2012 г., „Някога пак“ е нещо повече от автобиография на забележителна жена с неподправен чар. Това е топло, забавно и съкровено четиво, пресъздаващо атмосферата в средно американско семейство с типични американски мечти. „Ето какво научих. Сега скоро ще стане Някога. Някога не може никога да стане Сега. Не можем да запазим миналото, нито да разгадаем загадката на любовта. Но според мен си струва да се опита“, насърчава ни голямата актриса.Родена на 5 януари, 1946 г., Даян Кийтън е американска филмова звезда, режисьор и продуцент. Носителка е на наградата на филмовата академия на САЩ за Най-добра актриса за ролята си във филма Ани Хол на режисьора Уди Алън. Ако сте почитател на Даян Кийтън, след като прочетете „Някога пак“ ще я харесвате повече. А дори и да нямате представа коя е тя, ще се насладите на един проникновен и трогателен разказ.ОТКЪСМама обичаше сентенции, цитати, девизи. На стената на кухнята винаги имаше залепени бележчици. Например думата МИСЛЍ. Намерих МИСЛЍ забодена с кабарче на коркова дъска в тъмната й стаичка. Видях я залепена с тиксо на кутия за моливи, която беше украсила с колаж. Открих дори текст, озаглавен МИСЛЍ, на нощната й масичка. Мама обичаше да МИСЛИ. В една тетрадка беше написала: Чета книгата на Том Робинс „Дори каубойките плачат“. Пасажът за брака е свързан с борбата на жените за реализация. Записвам си това, за да МИСЛЯ върху него... Следваше цитат от Робинс: „...за повечето нещастни тъпи женици с промити мозъци по-върховно преживяване от брака няма. За мъжа бракът е въпрос на чиста логика: яденето, спането, прането, телевизорът (...) поколението и всякакви удобства – всичко му е под един покрив. (...) Но за жената бракът означава тя да се предаде. Бракът означава момичето да се откаже от борбата (...) и оттам нататък да остави наистина важните и интересни неща на мъжа си, с когото се е спазарила да „се грижи“ за нея. (...) Жените живеят по-дълго от мъжете, защото всъщност не са живели“. Мама обичаше да МИСЛИ за живота, особено за преживяването да си жена. Обичаше и да пише за това.В средата на 70-те години, при едно прибиране у дома, проявявах в тъмната стаичка на Майка снимки, които бях направила в Атлантик Сити, когато открих нещо, което не бях виждала никога. Беше нещо като – не знам – скицник. На корицата имаше колаж, който тя беше направила от семейни снимки, и думите Важно е пътуването, не пристигането. Взех го и го разлистих. Макар че съдържаше няколко колажа от снимки и изрезки от списания, беше пълен с изписани страници.Днес имах ползотворен ден в книжарницата „Хънтърс Букстор“. Пренаредихме секцията за изкуство и открихме множество интересни книги, останали скрити. Минаха две седмици, откакто ме наеха. Изкарвам по три долара и трийсет и пет цента на час. Днес ми платиха общо осемдесет и девет долара.Това не беше някой от типичните албуми на Мама с обичайните салфетки от „Клифтънс Кафетерия“, стари черно-бели снимки и немного радостните свидетелства с успеха ми. Това беше дневник.Един текст с дата 2 август 1976 г. гласеше: ВНИМАВАЙ НА ТАЗИ СТРАНИЦА. Ти, потенциалният бъдещ читател, знай, че за това е нужна смелост. Говоря за това, което мисля. Ядосана съм. Мишената – Джак – обидни думи, тези, които той изсипа срещу мен – НЕ са забравени и несъмнено това е проблемът – „Проклето копеле“ – всичко изречено – всичко почувствано. Боже, за какъв, по дяволите, се мисли той?Това ми стигаше. Беше болезнено, твърде болезнено. Не исках да знам нищо за страна от живота на Майка и Татко, която можеше да смаже представата ми за тяхната любов. Върнах го на мястото му, излязох от тъмната стаичка и не отворих друг от осемдесет и петте й дневника, докато тя не почина трийсетина години по-късно. Но разбира се, колкото и да се опитвах да отричам присъствието им, ги виждах оставени по лавиците или сложени под телефона, или дори зяпащи ме от някое кухненско чекмедже. Веднъж взех да разглеждам новия албум на Мама „Сто цветя“ на Джорджия О’Кийфи върху масичката за кафе и под него открих дневник, озаглавен „Кой казва, че не си имала шанс?“. Все едно заговорничеха: „Вземи ни, Даян. Вземи ни“. И дума да не става. Нямаше да си причиня това отново. Но бях впечатлена от упоритостта на Мама. Как можеше да продължава да пише без публика, дори в лицето на собственото си семейство? Просто го правеше. Писала е за връщането си в училище на четиресет години. Писала е за това какво е да си учител. Писала е за всяка бездомна котка, която е спасила. Когато сестра й Марти се разболя от рак на кожата и изгуби по-голямата част от носа си, тя е писала и за това. Писала е за трудностите на остаряването. Когато Татко се разболя през 1990 г., дневникът й се е разбеснял срещу несправедливостта на рака, атакувал мозъка му. Документирането на смъртта му се оказа един от най-нежните репортажи на Мама. Сякаш грижите за Джак са я карали да го обича по начин, помагащ й да се превърне в човека, който винаги е искала да бъде. Днес се опитвах да накарам Джак да хапне. Но той не можа. След известно време си свалих очилата. Доближих глава до неговата и му казах, прошепнах му, че ми липсва. Разплаках се. Не исках да вижда, затова извърнах глава. А Джак, с малкото сили, които бяха останали в проклетото му тяло, взе една салфетка от джоба ми и бавно, както правеше всичко, бавно, съвсем бавно, ме погледна с пронизващите си сини очи и изтри сълзите от лицето ми. „Ще преживеем това, Дороти.“Той не го преживя. Накрая Мама се грижеше за Татко, както се беше грижила за Ранди, Робин, Дори и за мен – през целия ни живот. Но кой е бил до нея, когато е написала с трепереща ръка: Юни 1993 г. Днес е денят, в който научих, че имам наченки на болестта на Алцхаймер. Страшно? Така е започнала петнайсетгодишна битка срещу загубата на паметта. Продължила е да пише. Когато вече не е можела да пише абзаци, е пишела изречения, като: Дали щяхме да се нараняваме по-малко, ако се докосвахме повече? и Почитай себе си. И кратки въпроси и подкани, като: Бързо. Коя е днешната дата? Или странни неща, като: Главата ми се завърта. Когато не е можела да пише изречения, е пишела думи: НАЕМ. ОБАДИ СЕ. ЦВЕТЯ. КОЛА. И дори любимата си дума: МИСЛЍ. Когато думите й са се изчерпали, е започнала да пише цифри, докато в един момент вече не е можела да пише. Дороти Диан Кийтън се родила в Уинфийлд, щата Канзас, през 1921 г. Родителите й Бюла и Рой се отправили към Калифорния, преди тя да навърши три години. Тръгнали от вътрешността на страната в търсене на голямата мечта. Озовали се сред хълмовете на Пасадина. В гимназията Мама свирела на пиано и пеела в трио на име „Две точки и тире“. Била на шестнайсет, когато баща й заминал и оставил Бюла и трите й дъщери да се грижат сами за себе си. Животът на момичетата Кийтън бил тежък в края на 30-те години. Бюла, която не била работила нито ден през живота си, трябвало да си намери работа. Дороти изоставила мечтата си за колеж, за да помага вкъщи, докато Бюла най-после си намерила работа като чистачка.Имам снимка на шестнайсетгодишната Дороти, застанала до баща си Рой Кийтън. Защо ли е изоставил своята любима дъщеря, своето копие, защо? Как е могъл да замине, знаейки, че завинаги ще разбие част от сърцето й? Всичко се променило, когато Дороти срещнала Джак Хол на баскетболно игрище в Лосанджелиския тихоокеански колеж в Хайланд Парк. Мама обичаше да си спомня как този красив чернокос, синеок младеж бил дошъл да се срещне със сестра й Марта, но не откъснал очи от нея. Смееше се и казваше: „Беше любов от пръв поглед“. И трябва да е било така, защото скоро след това двамата избягали в Лас Вегас, в хотел „Стардъст“. Мама никога не ми сподели своите мечти за самата себе си. Имаше обаче намеци. Беше президент на Родителско-учителската асоциация, както и на Дамския клуб „Аройо Виста“. Беше учителка в неделното училище към нашата Свободна методистка църква. Участваше във всяка игра на гърба на всяка кутия със зърнена закуска. Обичаше телевизионните игри. Любимата ни беше „Кралица за един ден“ с водещия Джак Бейли, който започваше всеки епизод, пет дни седмично, с „Искаш ли ТИ да бъдеш... КРАЛИЦА... ЗА... ЕДИН... ДЕН?“. Играта протичаше така: Бейли интервюираше четири жени; тази, която беше в най-лоша форма – според аплодисментите на публиката, – ставаше Кралица за един ден. На фона на Церемониален марш No 1 той слагаше на победителката кадифена наметка с бяла кожена яка, поставяше на главата й блестяща тиара и й подаряваше четири дузини червени рози от „Карлс“ в Холивуд. Мама и Леля Марта написаха своите тъжни истории на формуляра за участие повече от веднъж. Мама почти се класира, когато написа: „Съпругът ми има нужда от бял дроб“. Когато я притиснаха за подробности, Мама каза истината – е, почти. Джак Хол, страстен гмуркач, искаше да се гмурка по-надълбоко, за да слага повече храна в семейните чинии. Мама беше елиминирана. Една сутрин се събудих и видях група непознати да обикалят къщата ни, оглеждайки всяка стая. Мама не беше счела за нужно да ни каже, че се е записала за участие в местния кръг на конкурса „Мисис Америка“. Конкурсът търсеше идеалната домакиня. По-късно каза на нас, децата, че това е конкурс за умения, включващи подреждане на маса, аранжиране на цветя, оправяне на легла и готвене, както и управление на семейния бюджет, и поддържане на безупречен външен вид. Нашата реакция беше: „О!“. Аз бях на девет, тоест достатъчно голяма, за да седя сред публиката в киното на ул. „Фигероа“, когато я короноваха за Мисис Хайланд Парк. Изведнъж майка ми, новата най-добра домакиня в Хайланд Парк, застана високо над мен на широка сцена пред огромна завеса от червено кадифе. Когато завесата се вдигна, за да покаже телевизор „Ар Си Ей Виктор Шелби“, пералня и сушилня „Филко“, комплект куфари „Самсонайт“, моден гардероб от универсален магазин „Айвърс“ и шест кобалтовосини флакона парфюм „Вечер в Париж“, не бях сигурна какво гледах. Какво виждах? Защо Мама стоеше в светлината на прожекторите, сякаш беше кинозвезда? Беше ужасно вълнуващо и в същото време крайно неприятно. Нещо се беше случило, някакво предателство. Мама ме беше изоставила, но – дори по-лошо, много по-лошо – на мен тайно ми се искаше аз да бях на тази сцена, не тя. Шест месеца по-късно Дороти Хол беше коронована отново, този път за Мисис Лос Анджелис, от Арт Линклетър в хотел „Амбасадор“. Брат ми Ранди и аз я гледахме на новия телевизор „Ар Си Ей Виктор Шелби“. Задълженията й като Мисис Лос Анджелис включваха прояви в местни супермаркети, универсални магазини и дамски клубове из целия окръг Лос Анджелис. Почти не я виждахме, а когато си беше у дома, беше заета да прави все същата германска шоколадова торта с орехи с надеждата да спечели короната на Мисис Калифорния. На татко му писна от всичко това и даде да се разбере. Когато изгуби мечтаната титла Мисис Калифорния, тя сякаш прие провала си така лесно, както пое отново нормалните си домакински задължения, но нещата бяха различни, поне за мен. Понякога се чудя как ли можеше да се промени животът ни, ако Мама беше избрана за Мисис Америка. Дали щеше да стане телевизионна звезда като Бес Майърсън, или говорителка на домакински уреди „Филко“, или колумнист в списание „Макколс“? Какво щеше да се случи с моите мечти да бъда в светлината на прожекторите, ако нейните се бяха осъществили? Друга майка й отне възможността, но на мен не ми беше мъчно; радвах се, че не се налагаше да я деля с един по-голям свят. Мама вярваше, че децата й щяха да имат блестящо бъдеще. Все пак аз бях смешна. Ранди пишеше стихове. Робин пееше, а Дори беше умна. Преди прогимназията се бяха натрупали достатъчно четворки с минус, за да е ясно, че няма да бъда ученичка с блестящо бъдеще. Като цялата нация и аз държах тест за интелигентност през 1957 г. Резултатите не бяха изненадващи. Имаше едно изключение – нещо, наречено абстрактно мислене. Нямах търпение да изтичам у дома и да кажа на Мама за това абстрактно мислене. Какво беше то? Развълнувана от всяко постижение, тя ми каза, че абстрактното мислене е способността да се анализира информация и да се решават задачи на сложно мисловно равнище. Колкото и да съм се опитвала да намирам отговори чрез обстойно обмисляне, все още не ми е съвсем ясно какво означава абстрактно мислене. През 1959 г. културният кръгозор на семейството ни се промени, когато до нас се нанесоха семейство Бастендорф. Бил беше психолог с докторска степен. Татко не вярваше на „психари“. Но не можеше да не харесва Бил и съпругата му Лоръл, които разбуниха общността, защото оставяха децата си да тичат навън голи. На нашата улица с еднакви къщи, обградени с идеално окосени ливади, съседите не одобряваха джунглата на Бастендорф, нито стените им, пълни с репродукции на картини на Пикасо, Брак и Миро. Понякога Лоръл откарваше мама до единственото битническо кафене в Санта Ана. Там двете пиеха еспресо и обсъждаха някоя статия за основоположници на тенденции, като Чарлс Иймс или Клиф Мей, от последния брой на списание „Сънсет“ – нещо такова. Знам само, че Мама приемаше всичко с ентусиазъм, особено паната от мидени черупки, които Лоръл я научи да прави. Беше толкова вдъхновена, че създаде свой собствен хибрид – Каменно пано. Скоро тези пана превзеха цялата къща. Това, което си спомням най-ярко, беше най-малко метър на метър и половина и тежеше толкова много, че някои от камъните започнаха да падат. Макар че повечето хора виждаха Дороти като домакиня, аз виждах творец, търсещ изразни средства.Вдъхновена от примера на Бастендорф, през 1961 г. Мама натовари нас, децата, в семейното комби и кара чак до Ню Йорк, за да видим изложбата „Изкуството на асамблажа“ в Музея за модерно изкуство. Останахме смаяни от Джоузеф Корнел и от това как създаваше въображаем свят чрез своите кутии и колажи. Веднага, щом се прибрахме, реших да облепя в колажи цялата си стая. Мама се запали много и взе да ми предлага снимки от списания, които смяташе, че може да ми харесат, като например снимка на Джеймс Дийн на Таймс Скуеър. Скоро започна да облепва с колажи почти всичко, включително кошчетата за боклука от колажите и кутиите за материалите за колажите, направени от неравно папиемаше; покри с колажи дори вътрешността на всички кухненски шкафове. (Не питайте.) Ранди стигна по-далеч, като се посвети на изкуството на колажа. Дори днес буквално стотици колажи от сегашната му поредица – „Възпрепятстван от женско лице“ – са прибрани във фурната, където той твърди че са в безопасност. Може да се каже, че събирането и преработването на образи, реорганизирането на познатото в неочаквани комбинации с надеждата да открием нещо ново се превърна в наша обща вяра. Колажът, също като абстрактното мислене, беше визуален процес за анализиране на информация. „Права ли съм?“ – както винаги питах Мама, когато бях малка. Тя със сигурност смяташе, че съм права.Бях на четиринайсет, когато започнах да влача един спомен, с който никога няма да се разделя. Мама и Татко танцуваха на лунна светлина на един хълм в Енсенада, Мексико. Група мариачи свиреха. Аз гледах отстрани, докато те се целуваха с дълбочина на чувствата, която би трябвало да е смущаваща за дъщеря тийнейджърка. Вместо това ме изпълни с благоговение. Дори ми даде нещо друго, в което да вярвам. Тяхната любов. Приютявайки се в прегръдката на любовта на Мама и Татко, аз знаех, че нямаше да има сбогувания.

  • Judy
    2019-01-19 23:15

    My preferred reading material is memoirs, which is why I picked up this book at the library. Plus, I like the Diane Keaton persona and a couple of her movies are on my top 10 favorites list, namely Manhattan Murder Mystery and Something's Gotta Give. Despite a fickle public, she's kept her movie career going for 40 years without descending into alcoholism, drugs, or slasher movies. This is a substantive accomplishment and makes me want to know more about her.In this book Keaton doesn't give the reader intimate details of her romances and breakups, and for this I say Thank You. The little she does tell us about the 3 men she loved is all we need to know. Not much here about her movies. Nor does she discuss her friends in detail, though it's apparent how important and necessary they are to her happiness. Instead, she has written about herself and her mother, with whom she had a wonderful relationship, so unlike my own experience with my self-absorbed and distant mother. I had always assumed Keaton had loads of self-confidence, essential for anyone who dresses the way she does, but no, Keaton is self-doubting. From childhood on Keaton didn't think she was pretty, something she thought essential in order to be noticed, and so she created a personality via hats, wide belts, and a big smile. This reminded me of Diana Vreeland, absolutely not pretty, who used clothes to express her personality, but who possessed genuine self-confidence and belief in her talents. And like her mother, Keaton, seeking to discover herself and her calling, wasted time in "artistic" projects, until Warren Beatty told her, "You're a movie star. Make movies."The book ends happily when, at the ripe old age of 50, she becomes a mother via adoption, and like her own mother she finds fulfillment in child raising. And that's what became of Annie Hall.

  • Janice
    2019-02-09 02:41

    Excellent memoir by Keaton. Much more than a celebrity biography. She found journals by her adored Mother, who lived the mirro life of Keaton. Her Mother was a frustrated Artist and writer, who made collages and yearned for fame, but instead had 4 children and tried to make heralded content as a 50's wife, Mother and housewife Diane, on the other hand, was a fulfilled artist, a celebrity, but never married, adopted 2 kids at age 50 and never fleshed out thr relationship part of her life. Mirror opposites. In the book, she juxtaposes pages from her Mother's journals with her reactions to those same ideas and times. It is a brilliant set- up! It makes the book much larger than Diane's story. It is a mother- daughter story, it is a story of choices-- those taken, those missed. It's a story of women's options in society. It's the yin and the yang. Beautifully observed!! And you feel the undying warmth and love that Diane has bound up in her mother .It's a very touching memoir. It speaks to women's roles in society then and now. Excellent. Fast read.

  • Suzanne
    2019-01-16 23:35

    I went on Amazon to see the reviews on this and was astonished by the glowing reviews: one of the best books of the year by major newspapers, etc.. I listened to it and the charm of her reading it worked on me for a while. Keaton comes across as the sweet, warm person I've always thought her to be. And she loves her mother. A lot. I doubt she wanted us to take away the picture of her mother as a lost, dying Alzheimer patient, but that's what I got. I had a better sense of David Sedaris' mother from one of his essays than I get of Keaton's mother from this whole book.The book was kind of a mashup of Keaton's personal biography, the death of her parents and overwrought sentimental notes to and about her children (the latter were so cringeworthy I began to skip tracks). The book was a poorly written mess, not unlike one of her many bad films. Yet, to her credit, I'm still fond of the woman, probably thanks to Woody Allen, who really painted the best enduring picture of her.

  • Carole
    2019-01-29 00:29

    Did the publisher who offered Diane Keaton a contract think that because she can act, therefore she can write? Well then, they should have offered her the services of a ghost writer, or at least an editor! This book was plodding, confusing, and filled with trivial, uninteresting information. The only chapter that had any redeeming quality was the one in which she described the now well-publicized secret of her bulimia. This is a woman who dated three of the most interesting men in Hollywood (Woody Allen, Warren Beatty, and Al Pacino!) yet has not one interesting thing to say about any of them. In fact, when she talks about her relationships with these men, she sounds like a whiny sixteen year old girl (she's now 65)who does not understand why her boyfriend is acting so mean. I'm not really sure why I picked up this book but it has taught me to be much more careful about reading books by celebrities. I don't usually read this kind of book and I won't do it again soon.

  • Amy Bond
    2019-01-23 00:16

    I always thought Diane Keaton must have an incredibly interesting life story...and she does...but the young starving actress in NYC (with an eating disorder) is relatively cliched. I found myself getting bored with her early years. The idea of interweaving her and her mother's life together and telling the stories side by side is also not well executed. It is not until the story of her later years, on the set of Something's Gotta Give, and when she adopts her children, that I began to get really into her story. Her investment decision to buy, restore and sell houses is also fun to read about but it is clear that Keaton doesn't really come into her own until her much later years. She sounds like a lovely woman but this book is surprisingly uninteresting for someone who seems to have led such a full life.

  • Kristen
    2019-02-04 19:34

    I was very touched by this book, but I think it was especially relevant for me because of the loss of her parents. With regard to whether I would recommend it to friends - I'm not sure if other readers who have not experienced that loss would enjoy it as much, unless they are avid Diane Keaton fans and have an interest in her life. It is an entertaining read though. I especially related to the search for who your parents really were as people, not just your parents, and what their hopes and dreams were, after you've lost them - you often don't think about that while they're alive, as you are so busy focusing on your own life, you tend to take them for granted and regret it later. The passages by her mother were also beautifully written and concisely poignant.

  • Elizabeth
    2019-02-09 02:25

    It's hard to pull off a memoir as honest and unflinching as Then Again but so lacking in detail and depth. I don't mind, as so many other reviewers seem to, Diane Keaton's lack of self-esteem and concerns that she's not pretty enough. It's that we only get wisps and bare outlines of her relationships (with Woody Allen, Warren Beatty, Al Pacino). Many events are conveyed in the form of letters or lists of objects. It's just not enough, and in a way it's dishonest, amid so much detail about her mother, her mother's life, her mother's journals. She needed to be more willing to tell the tale, and frankly, there's something a bit lazy about this.

  • Kieran Scott
    2019-01-21 00:41

    I wish that if I wrote a letter to Diane Keaton she would actually read it, because this book meant so much to me in the wake of my mother's death. So much about her experience at the end of her mother's life was like mine, it was unnerving, but also gratifying and self-affirming. I was crying at the end. I know I'm raw, but it's been a while since a book made me cry. Anyway, if you're reading this and you know Diane Keaton, tell her thanks from me. :)