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With wit, humor and style, Joanne Hanks takes you on a wild ride through the insanity of the Mormon-based polygamist cult that was her life for seven years. Get ready to laugh. Get ready to be outraged. And get ready to see polygamy as no one has ever revealed it before.Joanne tells their crazy story with humor, satire—and insight. You’ll share her angst over sharing her hWith wit, humor and style, Joanne Hanks takes you on a wild ride through the insanity of the Mormon-based polygamist cult that was her life for seven years. Get ready to laugh. Get ready to be outraged. And get ready to see polygamy as no one has ever revealed it before.Joanne tells their crazy story with humor, satire—and insight. You’ll share her angst over sharing her husband. You’ll meet her “sister wives,” a prophet calling himself a “celestial stud service” who seeks divine guidance on threesomes, and apostles who dress in weird robes to curse the White House. You’ll fume at gut-wrenching tales of racism, sexual abuse, fraud, and manipulation. And you’ll find out why no one remembers when Jesus destroyed the world on March 26, 2000.“It’s Not About The Sex” My Ass is more than an entertaining read. It’s a cautionary tale about the power of delusional thinking, and a hopeful tale of one family that came to their senses and found the courage to leave....

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  • Candace
    2019-04-18 01:58

    After reading 'The 19th Wife', I wanted to know more about polygamy in religious cults like the FLDS. I ran across this book when searching for other books on the topic. Given the often disturbing and emotional nature of the topic, I was glad to see a book that seemed to approach the topic with humor. In that regard, this book really stood out from the rest.I listened to the Audible version of this book and my biggest complaint is that it was too short to really explore the topic as in-depth as I wanted to. The author did a fantastic job of pointing out the downright laughable "prophecies" that were a part of her day-to-day life in the polygamist community that she lived in. Written after leaving the polygamist community and breaking away from the cult, she does a good job of pointing fun at her blind obedience and outright idiocy. I just wanted more.This autobiographical account tells the story of Ms. Hanks, who entered into the polygamist cult as an adult, along with her husband. At that time, she was the only wife and she later helped her husband to "recruit" additional wives later on. Of course, they believed at the time that this was the will of God. Looking back, she recognizes it was really the will of horny guys that were able to craft "prophecies" to their liking.I really liked the fact that the author did not try to portray herself as a victim, while painting her husband as the monster. Yes, he certainly "reaped the rewards" of plural marriage. However, they made a decision to enter into the polygamist lifestyle together, as consenting adults. Fools they may have been, but victims...no.On the other hand, there were several things that I really struggled with while reading this book. First of all, I had trouble grasping that two well-educated adults raised outside of a polygamist community would ever be so naive. (He was a Chiropractor and she had a degree in Interior Design. Both had lived in "modern" cities and were exposed to "modern" ideas, as well as the condemnation of polygamist cults by the mainstream Mormon Church.)Maybe I'm just too skeptical, but I call bullshit. My personal theory is that for whatever reason this woman felt compelled to humor her husband's desire to have multiple wives. Maybe she was insecure. Maybe they were both closet perverts. I don't know, but I don't believe that these two adults actually bought into the religious cult BS. That being said, I did appreciate the honesty of the author with regards to the ridiculous cult teachings. She also was forthcoming about the emotional toll that plural marriage takes on the wives and the disharmony it creates in a household. In my humble opinion, any woman that says that she is "okay" with hearing her husband have sex with his new, younger bride down the hall is either lying...or glad to be relieved of the chore because secretly she hates his guts. The author didn't try to paint a rosy "I just love my sister wives" picture for readers and I was thankful for that.The other thing that really bothered me about this book was that I was pretty appalled by the actions of the author and her husband. On some level, I wanted to relate to the woman and even feel bad for her as her husband took on more wives. However, I just couldn't bring myself to do it. After all, she had been an integral part of the decision making process every step of the way. She even helped her husband select his second wife, who was a teenager at the time. While she griped about having to "raise" his second wife like she was another child in her home, I kept thinking "because she is, you sicko!". As far as I was concerned, she was as culpable as her husband. They preyed upon this young girl. Her husband may have been the dirty old guy that wanted to sleep with the teenager, but she facilitated it. She may have been 18 by the time the marriage was consummated, but it was sick. Just yuck!Overall, this was a 3 star read for me. I would have liked more of an in-depth expose, but realize that this was just the account of one woman that lived in a polygamist community for several years. While this book was actually pretty humorous, I had trouble believing that these adults could have been so gullible. I couldn't help but questions their true motivations for entering into such a taboo lifestyle. Nonetheless, I appreciate that the author points out many of the lies that seem readily apparent to most of us already. It goes to show that even intelligent individuals can be duped when it suits them.Check out more of my reviews at www.bookaddicthaven.com

  • britt_brooke
    2019-04-17 00:52

    This short memoir is full of snark and sass as the title assures, but it also presents a brief history of the mainstream LDS church, the birth and banishment of polygamy, and the existence of fundamentalist offshoots. Bonus points for the quick tribute to the late, great George Carlin.

  • marcia frederick
    2019-03-26 00:55

    PolygamyThis was most interesting. It wasn't so long as to lose interest. It was written in such a way that you wanted to find out more. I wasn't surprised as to the ending. I would like to hear more as to her children and how they turned out. Maybe more about some of the sister wives she left behind.

  • Karen Stollznow
    2019-04-08 01:54

    Aside from having a great title, this book is a fabulous read. It is an insightful and witty look at the problems inherent to Mormon polygamy. It *is* about the sex, but it's also about many other crazy beliefs and practices. Do get this book!

  • Preston Dannelley
    2019-04-07 07:43

    What can I say? The title reached out and grabbed me.This lady has a fantastic ability to respond to situations with the most exquisite sarcasm! I have always been curious about LDS and while there is probably more to it than what she shares, I was glad to see that she tried to take things in stride and giggle at herself, and at the people in her life at the time. Kudos Joanne!Read the book and learn a lot and laugh a lot, I just dont recommend reading it at night while your spouse is trying to sleep, its like reading Janet Evanovich!

  • Cat
    2019-04-01 05:44

    "A Beautiful Conversion of Tragedy To Comedy"The underlying story is important. Many of us are potentially vulnerable to "buying into" a false religion; a utopian dream. She followed her heart into polygamy and she followed her heart out. The author presented a serious situation with self-deprecating humor. She is very funny. I hope she writes more books.I listened to the Audio edition of this book. Kimberley Ellington did a fantastic job.

  • Bridget Bryson
    2019-04-22 04:31

    Part eye opening, part insightful and part humorous.

  • Dan
    2019-04-16 02:33

    Good memoir by Hanks about life in a polygamist cult in Manti, Utah.

  • Kirsten
    2019-04-19 23:48

    I have read this book many times because I really enjoyed it. What this woman went through is fascinating to me and I love how she recounts it with a great humor.

  • Pete West
    2019-04-03 23:43

    For anyone who wants to defend polygamy or who is tempted to live the life, read this first.

  • Steph Spencer
    2019-03-27 23:55

    Note: This book was so good I listened to it straight through in audiobook form, then turned around and listened to it again; then bought the hardcover edition!January 9, 2017By Stephany SpencerMy book review of "It's Not About the Sex" My Ass: Confessions of an Ex-Mormon Ex-Polygamist Ex-Wife (Kindle Edition)I don't usually do book reviews, for lack of time. But this book was so good I listened to it straight through, on Audible — and am listening to it again, for the third time,  right now. And I also then bought the book!I am an Ex-FLDS, Ex-polygamist wife, Escapee of my Uncle Joel LeBaron's Mormon fundamentalist cult ... and a recovering Mormon. So I found the story, humor, and satire in this superbly-written Memoir extra hilarious. I could well relate to it all firsthand! That's putting it mildly: I about split in half laughing at these clever writers' tongue-in-cheek asides and observations of life in polygamy and a Mormon fundamentalist cult!I am still so rebbed up from this excellent and well-written book I listened to from start to finish, non-stop, that I’m following it up with this review — to help me come down from my high, after the great marathon read/listen!I want to say it is one of the best books I've ever read/listened to -- It’s a classic. The narrator, also, couldn't have been better! I only wish I had words and time to give it the best review any expert writer could.It not only is a true view of what polygamy and Mormon cults are all about  but gives some good advice, too, on how to avoid one -- or how to get out of one if you find yourself in one.I have an aunt who, after her husband (my Uncle Ervil LeBaron) died, joined Harmston's group -- the cult Joanne Hanks and her husband had belonged to then left. After many years, now, of being married to Harmston, my aunt unfortunately still believes he's "The One Mighty and Strong"/a prophet! So kudos to the author and her husband for seeing through it and having the wherewithal to finally leave!A sister of mine says Harmston's cult is worse and more dangerous than was the cult of the psychotic serial killer "Evil Ervil" -- "The Mormon Manson"! So I'm still wondering about this. For I have not heard anything in the news, so far, nor in “It’s Not About the Sex" My Ass! to tell me Harmston is a dangerous megalomaniac murderer. Though I read recently that he does preach "blood atonement."Perhaps it was safer to not tell all that? But thanks, Joanne Hanks and Steve Cuno, for writing this book! Your words, insight, and humor have helped me in my healing journey. And it will also help and has already helped many others who've read or listened to your superbly written top-rate Memoir.

  • Susan Bazzett-Griffith
    2019-03-25 04:53

    A very different kind of polygamist memoir, one from a woman who spent about six years in the polygamous TLC cult in Manti, Utah, and who came out of the experience relatively unscathed, this book is at points funny, as the author is no longer a believer and is very willing to poke fun at herself, others, and the hypocrisy and oddity of religion in general. At the end of the book, (not a spoiler), she declares her fandom of George Carlin, which makes a lot of sense after her change of heart about not just polygamy, but religion in general. A quick and easy read, recommended for people who are obsessed with Big Love. Three stars.

  • Charlie Oliver
    2019-04-03 23:30

    I wouldn't describe the author as hilarious but she certainly is sassy. The book itself is a quick and entertaining read wherein an educated adult woman gets too sucked up into religious zealotry. It's not a book that slams Mormons, although you'd assume it would be, but by the end of the book the author is pretty much done with religion. There's a pretty big elephant in the room as far as the fact that she brings her kids along with her into a toxic environment. I guess we're supposed to be okay with that because she got them out before they were married off to some weirdo? Not cool, bro.

  • Varina
    2019-04-03 03:36

    This was a funny and quick read that I enjoyed, but am glad I didn't pay for. It was a bit too brief to be honest, the author fairly glid over most of the story and there were many points where I thought she could have, or should have gone deeper or explained more. In fact, I wonder how easy this book would be to understand for someone not very familiar with either mainstream Mormonism or it's polygamist splinter sects. Those criticisms aside, it was a very interesting story, told with wit and sincerity. It's sort of a beach read version of a post-polygamist memoir, which is at least pretty unique.

  • Marjorie
    2019-04-14 02:45

    Very funny, quick light beach read about something much heavier than sand in your sandals. The telling of the progression from main stream to cult is quite clear and appreciated. The details about beliefs, underwear, rules for sex and how they are decided very clearly showed how god doesn't have a lot to do with it. George Carlin's quote works for me. 'Think about it: religion has actually convinced people- many of them adults- that there's an invisible man who lives in the sky and watches everything you do, every minute of every day.....and he needs money.'

  • Beth
    2019-04-21 07:51

    It is very sad how people in religious power can manipulate parishioners to do some very strange things. This was written by a woman who was a part of a polygamous family and cult and about how one day she and her husband just couldn't believe the BS anymore. They got out and have turned away from all religion now because they see how it can be manipulated to further a mans own agenda instead of what God wants. The book was a bit humorous at points, thank goodness, as evidenced by the title. The author manages to show the ludicrousness amidst a giggle or two. A quick read.

  • Shanna
    2019-04-16 02:30

    This was a pretty good quick read (a bit pricey for an ebook this short, though.). I, personally, am a big fan of Sister Wives and I suppose that inspired my morbid curiosity surrounding polygamy. While the author was involved in a (non-extreme) cult, it still give you a look inside how some of this stuff works. There were parts I wished were fleshed out a bit more, but I realize that might have caused unnecessary controversy with past relationships. The author is frank and funny, while still getting her ideas across.

  • brandi
    2019-03-28 01:43

    Interesting takeSo glad she can have humor after whAt she went through :). I was a little disappointed that some of her "facts" on the Mormon church were fiction. She must have grown up in a different Mormon church than I did. I guess Utah Mormons are a breed all their own. At least that's what I've always heard! I have heard and read about lots of fundamentalist Mormon groups but I never knew about the TLC. glad she shared her journey!

  • Amber Houlton o'neil
    2019-04-14 01:34

    Couldn't put it downI was intrigued by the title and description of this book, so decided to give it a go. I finished the entire thing in one night because I couldn't put it down. I found the insight into the cult mentality from a personal perspective very interesting, and the humor and raw honesty refreshing. I would buy it again.

  • Kelli
    2019-04-24 01:51

    One woman's humerus account of her life in a polygamist cult. The book is mainly the highlights of her life and it leaves a reader wanting more details. I wanted to know how they became entangled and why they left. I don't feel that these were covered in enough detail to actually understand how someone gets drawn into a religious cult.

  • Angela Bee Bee
    2019-04-09 23:43

    https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B008Q4...The sample for this was icky, funny, and intriguing. It's super short for $9.99 and published in 2012. If it goes into KU or sale, I will snatch it up.

  • Tara
    2019-04-19 04:58

    Enlightening read. Kind of disturbing as well. The polygamy shows on TLC want to romanticize polygamy. This book is really eye opening. If you watch Sister Wives or think there is some glorified benefits to being in a multiple wife marriage, I'd encourage you to read this book. Definitely isn't all it's cracked up to be.

  • Barbara
    2019-04-02 07:50

    This woman's experiences will shock you, but she and her co-author manage to show how intelligent people can come to believe what is least believable. The topic is serious, but the story is told in a light-hearted, witty fashion and without ridicule. I HIGHLY recommend it.

  • Barbara
    2019-04-01 07:35

    This woman's experiences will shock you, but she and her co-author manage to show how intelligent people can come to believe what is least believable. The topic is serious, but the story is told in a light-hearted, witty fashion and without ridicule. I HIGHLY recommend it.

  • Beth
    2019-03-31 00:00

    Best polygamy book I've read so far. Short and to the point. It also helps that the author is no longer a polygamist OR Mormon.

  • Sansha Johnson
    2019-04-17 00:31

    A quick and funny read.

  • Kathryn
    2019-04-03 06:55

    Entertaining and funny.

  • Cecil
    2019-04-07 06:43

    I loved the book. It gave me insight into a sect of polygamy which I previously didn't know about.

  • Jason
    2019-04-13 06:59

    Shocking look inside polygamy in Utah. Short read.

  • Terri
    2019-04-24 00:51

    Interesting Interesting point of view into the life of a polygamist. A little bit of a different approach than others I have read.