In an increasingly global and connected world, marriages between spouses of different countries and cultures are on the rise. Marla Alupoaicei, herself wed to a Romanian, helps couples sort through such issues as food, finances, family, and such “hidden” problems as different understandings of what it means to be “on time.” Marla combines real-life stories with expert persIn an increasingly global and connected world, marriages between spouses of different countries and cultures are on the rise. Marla Alupoaicei, herself wed to a Romanian, helps couples sort through such issues as food, finances, family, and such “hidden” problems as different understandings of what it means to be “on time.” Marla combines real-life stories with expert perspectives and biblical insight for a helpful guide both for those just starting out on the intercultural adventure – and those in the midst of it.You'll get practical and biblical advice for handling the most common intercultural conflicts, including:Planning your weddingCommunicationUnderstanding each other's valuesDifferent views of timeAgreeing on foodManaging financesIntimacyRaising childrenHandling illness and grief...
|Title||:||Your Intercultural Marriage: A Guide to a Healthy, Happy Relationship|
|Number of Pages||:||224 Pages|
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Your Intercultural Marriage: A Guide to a Healthy, Happy Relationship Reviews
Marla Alupoaicei is an American woman who married a Romanian man. In her book, Your Intercultural Marriage, she highlights some of the issues that face really any marriage but specifically discusses them in an intercultural context. She starts at dating and gets as in depth as the differences in the grieving processes of cultures other than your own.This book won't tell you what to do, but it could reveal what to expect. She brings up several points that one may not even consider when contemplating cross-cultural relating. Things like food (one man's delicacy is another woman's dread), time (some people live in the present, others plan for the future), and even finances (to spend or not to spend) provoke thought and hopefully discussion between both partners. I won't say it's a fantastic book. It's decent - it's not a waste of time - but it's far from groundbreaking. It seems like most of the content in her book comes from other authors (Dugan Romano is cited extensively). For some reason that annoyed me at times. On the other hand, instead of buying several books, you can just buy this one and read them all at the same time. She does make her own points; I don't want to take that away from her. At the very least you can tell she researched the topic. It's not an especially deep book, but as I've said, it's often thought provoking.
I'm glad I picked this book up at a sale, as I had high hopes for it but was a bit disappointed. It often simply scratches the surface of an issue, with a list of resources (no doubt useful) for deeper exploration. Though there are stories of challenges that other intercultural couples faced, the examples stop short of telling how they overcame those challenges. I also found the book's subtle American bias somewhat offensive. Most (if not all) of the "biblical resources" are written by American authors who, though of course trying to apply biblical principles to problems facing their culture, are nevertheless addressing a specific cultural audience. The section on weddings recommends talking over expectations but contains no further suggestions for discovering mutually acceptable options (we had had a lot of trouble with that for our own wedding), and then lists some (American) wedding planning guides with ideas for multicultural weddings... but wedding planning guides per se are very American! I also expected the book to feature a section about dealing with in-laws / families of origin.However, what I do think can be very useful is the talking points she gives in each chapter. It's not a bad book overall, just not what I expected.
While this book was thought provoking, I felt that its main purpose was to provide more resources to read. This is not exactly the reason I read a book. On the positive side, it provides thought-provoking material and concrete subjects that any international couple should consider. This is written with a specific christian audience in mind, and thus it may have limited use for the non-christian intercultural couple.
Marla’s easy writing style is inviting and her informative chapters will keep you reading. She provides a great wealth of information for Christians on intercultural marriage. I know this would be a great book to give to any of your newly wed friends or soon to be wed friends. Thanks Marla for providing an innovative and much needed resource for couples!
I've read a lot on interculturality and theology and relationships, and this is snack food. I read it quickly and not-introspectively, although I was moved when she said that instead of "choosing our battles" we could just decide to "lose our battles". Great Sermon on the Mount-esque ethics.I think the book's greatest weakness is it's lack of coherency. It feels like she just got together a bunch of good advice and personal experiences and cheesy quotes offline, and threw it together in the pot. It reads like a pop radio station, we might say. I think most of her ideas are valuable, but as far as I could tell, they never coalesced into a particularly tasty stew...I would recommend it as a helpful read for people who are dating/engaged/thinking about getting married to someone from a different culture, because it does have a lot of good lists of questions that are important to ask and work through.