Almost all books for parents focus on the way children develop. Ellen Galinsky, instead, writes about how parents develop. Drawing on the work in adult development of Erik Erikson and Daniel Levinson, she describes six distinct stages in the life of a parent: the image-making that occurs during pregnancy; the nurturing role that swallows parents up from birth through the fAlmost all books for parents focus on the way children develop. Ellen Galinsky, instead, writes about how parents develop. Drawing on the work in adult development of Erik Erikson and Daniel Levinson, she describes six distinct stages in the life of a parent: the image-making that occurs during pregnancy; the nurturing role that swallows parents up from birth through the first couple of years; the authority parents must develop as small children show independence; the interpretive stage when parents explain the world and their values to school-age children; the interdependent stage when teenagers challenge authority; and the departure years when parents let go and take stock of their accomplishments and failures....
|Title||:||The Six Stages Of Parenthood|
|Number of Pages||:||382 Pages|
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The Six Stages Of Parenthood Reviews
Honestly, this book is VERY boring. It reads like a research paper and my mind wanders off quite often and I have to truly concentrate on it to read it. Plus, it was copyrighted in 1987. Seems like some new theories could have been hypothesized in the last 23 years about parenting, you know... with the introduction of the "millennium generation". I find it hard to relate to most of the couples interviewed in this book. Not sure why, but perhaps I've done my research and I'm more prepared for what to expect/how to feel during the pregnancy/birth process. Maybe I truly won't know until AFTER the birth, which negates the point of reading this BEFORE the birth.The six stages are:1. the image-making that occurs during pregnancy;2. the nurturing role that swallows parents up from birth through the first couple of years;3. the authority parents must develop as small children show independence;4. the interpretive stage when parents explain the world and their values to school-age children;5. the interdependent stage when teenagers challenge authority;6. and the departure years when parents let go and take stock of their accomplishments and failures.I have read stage 1, and I started stage 2. I'm not sure how far I'll get into the book before the birth of my child, nor am I motivated to get very far. It will be a while before stages 3 through 6 apply to me anyway.
I bought this book because I liked Galinsky's Mind in the Making so much. This book had a ton of really useful research presented on parenthood. Some things I learned: every parent has "images" of what their child will look like, behave, talk, etc. To be happy, you can either change reality to meet that image, or change your image to be more realistic. Abusive parents have an unrealistic image for their children. A lot of these images are built from what the parent remembers her own parents doing (and wanting to continue that pattern or change it), or what she herself was like as a child (and might fear/dislike certain things about the child that reminds her of herself, or like certain things for the same reason). Also, every parent must realize and accept that their child is NOT an extension of himself. The child might be similar, but she is a separate individual. THe parent should not value their own worth according to how the child performs at school or work. Learn to accept their separatness.There are lots of interviews that I found interesting and parenting ideas, and it reinforces the idea that we grow as an individual for being a parent. I liked that.
I recommend this book for any parent or prospective parent (since the first stage actually begins before you have a child). It highlights the cognitive and emotional changes all parents must go through as their children grow and develop. It was reassuring to know that some of the thoughts I'm having during pregnancy are "normal" and part of parental development, even though they seem unusual to me since I've never had them before. I also find it useful to have a general idea about how my thoughts and behaviors are likely to change as my child grows, so I'll have a realistic image of my future.
Galinsky explores the development of parents through the lives of their children from birth through adulthood. She looks at research on development, but more often she develops hypotheses through a series of structured interviews she collected from parents. While the research may not be based on the strongest empirical methodology, the result is a book that resonates with parents and could be a valuable tool for therapists. There are many themes explored that are beyond the scope of what parents normally speak openly about, so the book provides real insight into the inner world of parents with kids at different stages of development.